Go First Be the Role Model for Others!

A role model is a person who serves as an example of values, attitudes, and behaviors associated with a role. You may have several role models in your lifetime for various aspects of your life.

Why do you need a role model? To help guide you in the right direction as you make life decisions, provide inspiration and support when you need it, provide an example of how to live a fulfilling and happy life. You may even be a role model for someone in some aspect of your life.  You want to pick someone that is further along the journey than you.

Seven characteristics make up a good role model.

1.)    Find a role model that demonstrates confidence and leadership.

2.)    Find a role model that isn’t afraid to be their unique selves.

3.)    Find a role model that can communicate and interact with everyone.

4.)    Find a role model that shows respect and concern for others.

5.)    Find a role model that is knowledgeable and well rounded.

6.)    Find a role model that has humility and willingness to admit mistakes.

7.)    Find a role model that does good things outside of their job.

Being a role model of health is difficult. Children mimic you and peers watch your behaviors which may be overwhelming at times. So stick to the 80/20 rule- 80% of the time work hard to be present and be spot on with your integrative sustainable movement and 20% of the time you can relax a bit because life does happen.

Here are seven tips for being a role model of health.

1.)    Take a chance to be physically active every day.

2.)    Keep a positive attitude because it is contagious.

3.)    Eat moderate portions from all food groups.

4.)    Drink water.

5.)    Never skip meals.

6.)    Practice open communication NVC and Empathetic listening.

7.)    Respect others even in a time of intolerance.

Find a community that you can be part of if you are having trouble sticking to an integrative sustainable movement. A mindful living community is one that supports each other in good and bad times, a place where members speak openly about their vulnerability and others listen to them without judgment.  Always exercise with a teacher that has their personal practice that addresses the physical body, emotional body, the breathing body, the intellect body and the spiritual body. If they are uncomfortable sharing their routine with you, then keep looking for another role model. Were you meant to be a role model for health? Are you already a role model for health? Do you need a role model for health? The Mind Body Balance community offers many options to support your goals.

Geertje Couwenbergh shares twelve suggestions to help us be a role model for health.

  • Stop Going, Start Flowing! Stop controlling every aspect of your life sit back and let the abundance of the world flow in.
  • Breathe in deep, Breathe out long! Your breath is your best friend take deep conscious breaths and allow the exhale to be long.
  • Gentle Power! Brokenness makes you gentle and wholesomeness makes you strong embrace both.
  • Do Things Differently! Be spontaneous, it can be as simple as try lying upside down in your bed.
  • Turn Poison into Medicine! Learn to regard setbacks as opportunities rather than obstacles. Everything is annoying you they are invitations for you to practice compassion and kindness.
  • Ask for Help! Asking for help isn’t weakness instead it is an indication of self-knowledge.
  • Be Ignorant! The wisest people know nothing so try knowing absolutely nothing about something.
  • Be Specific! Avoid cutting corners and be as specific as you can today.
  • Put Something in Your Mouth! No not literally. Allow yourself a mental oral phase today and see things, think or hear in your mouth how they taste to you.
  • No Plan! Today don’t tick off any boxes today let go of your plan at least once. Wander. Stare. Listen.
  • Why Not! Try Tara Brach’s philosophy on for a while accept this life, accept this moment, exactly as it is.
  • The R-Word! Don’t be right until you are blue in the face and miserably stuck in a rut instead choose compassion over being right!

You were Meant to Be a Role Model for Health!

 

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Meant To Be- Be Satisfied with YOU

As we finish a year and begin to start a year anew, depending on your relationship status with yourself, it might have been a great weekend or it may have been the loneliest, most depressing couple of weeks that you have experienced all year.

When we stop asking, ‘Why Am I alone?’ And start asking, ‘Why am I here?’ Our whole world will change – for the good.” – Michelle Hammond

But there is always chocolate, alcohol, TV, and so on, right! For the Christmas season $409 million was spent on chocolate alone. For Halloween 90 million pounds of chocolate was purchased and for the upcoming Valentines holiday, 58 million pounds of chocolate will be sold. On average $220 billion is spent on alcohol in the United States annually. The average American adult watches 33 hours of TV per week that means that last year you spent 1716 hours in front of the TV. One of my favorite mass chocolate companies is Dove Chocolate. I enjoy reading the messages inside each wrapper. Dove includes these notes as a reminder to us to love and care for ourselves. The cool thing about these words is that they focus on the individual and encourage the person at the moment. No matter where you are in life with your relationships with self or others, if you allow yourself one piece of Dove Chocolate after a meal you can be encouraged by the wrapper. No, Mind Body Balance does not have a stockpile of Dove Chocolate at the studio, but most of us do love chocolate, and it can be used as a reminder to love ourselves and to care for ourselves.

This year we are kicking off our 2017 season with the word RENEW and a theme of “MEANT TO BE.”  Often there is so much tension around self-love and self-care that you can feel the tension.  How often do you take your relationship with self and your health for granted? How often do you focus on the negatives about your body, mind, and relationships? Allow a simple piece of Dove Chocolate to remind us that there is a kind of blessing that comes from being connected relationally with ourselves.

What about you? How has your journey with your self-care and self-love been going for you? What triggers cause you to feel: Sadness, Anger, Anxiousness, and Desperation in relationship to your self-care? I hope that you can lean into Mind Body Balance this year and experience the Mind Body Balance community entirely. Do not allow another year to go by where you feel the crushing feelings of loneliness, weight gain and depression. Instead we hope that you lean in and feel the blessings and life purpose “Dharma” that is a side effect of spending 15% (260 hours/year or 6.5 work weeks) of TV time  with us at Mind Body Balance. (This still leaves you 1500 hours or 29 hours a week for TV- although Kim recommends 10 hours of TV per week-ish, we won’t tell if you don’t).

This year I am struck by the word “RENEW” it means to resume activity after an interruption, to re-establish a relationship or to repeat a statement.  How many of us make a mistake, an act of error and judge ourselves harshly and punish ourselves through a lack of self-care and self-love? If you are doing this, you are also doing this to others. If you are judging others for doing this, they are a mirror to you that you also do this to yourself. It is okay to have a misstep and lapse as you can count on life throwing you some curves, the goal is not to have a relapse. If you don’t love yourself than others cannot love you.  I am not talking about narcissistic behavior I am referring to a regard for your well-being and happiness and that you work on you first so that others have the opportunity to connect with you in a productive and meaningful way. We are wired for love. Mantra or affirmation and chanting are great ways to start this relationship with you anew.

“Just as Mother Nature teaches me about the flow of seasons and that transformation is a natural part of life. I use these seasons as a way to observe whether I am in harmony with these rhythms or if I am in need of establishing new boundaries. When I am in flow through life naturally and effortlessly I am in a valley of change where I have renewed freedom within my spirit and with others.” – Kim Searl

We are currently in winter, and this is the season for reflection, hibernation and planning. Spring is the season for learning, opportunity and progressive thinking. Summer is a season for rewards, celebration and fulfillment. Autumn is a season for survival, mistakes and problems. Understanding the life cycle flow as they are short phrases and transformation is unavoidable, inevitable and yet very manageable is a guide to your personal growth, self-love and self-care.

Here is a mantra to get you started. I will write in Sanskrit and English, pick the language that works best for your belief system.

Atma Hrdaye:

Atma Hrdaye

Hrdayam Mayi

Aham Amrte

Amrtam Anadam Brahmani

My true nature is the heart.

The heart is my true nature.

I am the bliss of the heart.

The heart I am is the everlasting bliss of oneness.

This mantra comes from Rose Kress. It is a chant that comes to the heart from the heart.  Dr. John Douillard once said, “The heart’s true nature is to love for no reason at all.”  Consider chanting this daily for 3 minutes or 108 rounds for 40 days and see if something in your spirit changes. We are familiar with the physical heart which pumps blood to the whole of our body, organs, and brain. The heart maintains our physical life, and at the same time, we refer to our heart as the residence of our emotions both negative and positive this is our emotional heart. I guess you could say we have three hearts: anatomical heart, emotional heart and our innermost heart (hrdaya) or spiritual heart. The heart never changes, it doesn’t have good days or bad days, our previous experiences do not condition it. Our body is our temple, and our innermost heart is the shrine within that temple where the light of our consciousness dwells. This light of consciousness is where we manifest love that is our divine nature. Opening our hearts means to dis-armor ourselves, to uncover our heart. Any suffering we experience is the separation from the love that exists in our heart-of-hearts.

Integrative Sustainable Movement is MEANT TO BE in your life to inspire you to Be Satisfied with YOU!

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