Leadership & Growth Matters-Honor Matters


You cannot grow a plant by dipping it into the dirt once a year. It takes an ongoing connection to build a root system.” – Dr. Henry Cloud

 

The best way that I have found over the years to enhance my empathy for others is to do my own work. What do I mean by this? I mean doing the difficult work of getting into understanding your own feelings, needs, and desires. I have hired professionals often to help me work through this. It is tough and uncomfortable and I find the more I am able to observe and evaluate myself I enhance my empathy with others which is the most basic human relational ability in which to create a connection.

 

When we do this type of work it grows our leadership skills improve from one of frustration and angst in our choice of language to one of calm and empathic. You might think that this has a minor impact, however, a simple elementary change of language choice can produce a positive and widespread change in how we connect with others.

 

What kind of emotional tone do you want to have in your relationships?

What creates the tone, either positive or negative, and what can you do to make it better?

How is your balance between creating a positive connection with others and having your needs met going?

 

Build a support system around yourself today that allows for: the removal of toxic relationships and behaviors, that builds a deep connection with others, support others in getting in control of what they can control and help others to think optimistically and root out pessimistic belief systems. When you grow and get better everybody around you benefits!

What word would you use to describe your mother and father? Maybe love, safety, comfort, home or hurt, pain, regret, missed an opportunity. Maybe even the response of “I can’t talk about it!” No matter where you are on that spectrum, it’s your family, and though every family is different, every person matters. Honoring our parents depends on where you are in the family structure. When we appreciate the influence of our parents and significance of our parents, and we share their legacy, we honor them.

 

Lately, I’ve been doing my own work on the cultural aspects of my family. Being the third generation of immigrant families (on both sides) I’ve been looking at how the country of origin and moving countries affected my parents parenting style.  Did the style work for me as a child? How is my inner child belief system working for me now as an adult? I’ve made lists of how I am like my parents and how I am not like my parents. Doing this exercise has been extremely helpful in healing my relationships.

 

As we move into the holiday season and family emotions are running high. Have you sat still for a moment and pondered how you’d like to show up to your family? What your part is in the family dynamic? As adults, it is our job to learn what our parents could not teach us as a child.

 

How are you honoring the family relationships in your life?

 

Life is full of betrayal, storms, upheavals things that are out of our control, every person is different, our perceptions of life are different. You Matter, We All Matter! We are all unique as our fingerprint is. We are whole and as we transform ourselves, we support others in transforming too. Transformed individuals transform communities. I believe this happens one person at a time!

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